“Sex is a problem because … in the act there is complete absence of the self. In that moment you are happy because there is the cessation of self‑consciousness, of the ‘me’… Now, why do I want more of it? Because, everywhere else I am in conflict… Until you resolve the whole content of that conflict, this one release of the self, through sex, will remain a hideous problem…”
— Krishnamurti on Sex

It’s so accurate that I needed to take it and just copy-paste.
There is something about us that we are chasing — the feeling of being present, that feeling of complete absence of the self, where there isn’t the Me, the You, isn’t sexuality, isn’t any idea, and thoughts — and there is just presence.
In that moment, all the world is you and you are the world. All that is so beautiful.

The problem is that when we seek it only in sex, we begin to worship sex and become dependent on sensual sensations — maybe even crazy drugs throughout the night.
So we are slowly, gradually, taking this beautiful powerful energy (sexuality) into an addiction, into an unbalanced unhealthy relationship.

For me, in sexuality — with the understanding of its powerful energy — must come the seeing of what is the healthy relationship one must have.
You can have a crazy kink or fetish, it’s not about that.
But inwardly, there is a level of intensity that makes sense — there isn’t that unstoppable chase after achieving more or consuming more.When sexuality is in the right healthy relationship with the other energies and qualities — when there is harmony and understanding — when the intensity takes place in the right direction — only then do you see the beauty of intimacy, which isn’t always romantic intimacy.
It’s only then you appreciate the cuddle with your partner, the beauty of a walk, the sensual touch that you give, or the intimate massage you receive.